12.28.2009

Podcast - Homebirth 101: The Home Court Advantage

This is a great podcast about all things pregnancy! I have barely missed an episode.

Homebirth 101: The Home Court Advantage
What exactly is homebirth? Who is a good candidate and why might you want to consider a homebirth? How and why a homebirth is safe. When is a homebirth not recommended, and what's the plan of action if hospital transfer becomes necessary? What are the costs and what does insurance cover? And, thoughts on young siblings being present during a birth. Midwife Marla Hicks is this week's guest on PregTASTIC Pregnancy Podcast.
URL to article: http://www.pregtastic.com/homebirth-101-the-home-court-advantage/

12.09.2009

Heartburn = Baby Has Lots of Hair?

I look forward to finding out if this "Old Wive's Tale" one is true!

I have begun to experience more and more heartburn with this pregnancy. With Zyler, I only had it at night when I lay down, and well into the third trimester.

Some natural remedies that can help (which I have yet to try):
  • raw almonds
  • yogurt
  • spacing out eating and drinking
  • papaya tablets
 Have others to share? It seems to be worse with spicy foods, so I will probably need to watch that.

Joys of Homeownership

Clearly we have lots to be thankful for... But we are probably due a mini rant. :)

We were lucky enough to buy our home with all appliances installed in good working condition. In the past couple of years we have replaced (I think in this order) the microwave, toaster oven, washer, stove, toaster oven #2 (which was replaced with the stove with a built-in toaster), and now finally our heat pump, which began today! $$$ Cha-ching! That one especially hurts the pocketbook. But we feel pretty darn fortunate for it to have limped along the last few years being 31 years old by now, the original heat pump with the house.

So, we have no heat tonight (in the upstairs zone), but we have been "chillin" it anyway since it started giving us problems. Z has a small space heater but truly I don't think he needs it. He seems to sleep just fine with a blanket in the mid-60s! So do I, but I have a built-in incubator with #2 on the way! Boyers Heating & Air will complete the installation tomorrow. They will need to replace aluminum wiring with copper.

11.27.2009

A Plan and Mini Update

Once again, we have a plan of action. Such a relief! So much to be thankful for in this Thanksgiving season...

Janna has a contact who is a CNM (certified nurse midwife) and a CPM (certified professional midwife), and that midwife also works with another combo CNM-CPM midwife. We consulted and had a lovely discussion, and afterward, due to their schedule constraints, they decided I would see each of them at every other visit (Janna will attend every visit). All 3 ladies expressed interest in being at the birth, so Jason and I really feel as though we are getting a "3-for-1" kind of a deal. A few of the details are a bit confusing the way they want to organize it, but overall I am feeling a great sense of peace about our decision. These 2 certified midwives are very experienced in just about every setting imaginable!

I never sit down to stare at the "tube" very often and happened to watch several back-to-back episodes of A Baby Story, which depicts traditional births in a hospital setting. It made me even more confident with our home birth plan.

I am feeling well overall and "Peanut" is moving lots. I can tell she is getting stronger each day. That's right, we're expecting a girl! Part of me is not getting overly excited for a girl as I half expect her to grow that extra appendage that was somehow hiding during the ultrasound.

Zyler is 22 months old and is talking a ton. He tried to repeat just about anything we say, so watch your language! ;-) Sometimes I will ask him to say "hi" to the baby in my belly and he will give my belly a hug. Too precious!

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

11.04.2009

Some Bad News...

First off, Peanut is fine! We had our ultrasound last week... more on that later!

My midwife called me as I was almost home on Friday. She has to "release me from care" to put it in legal terms. She had a terrible loss a few of weeks ago. Her best friend died in a terrible car accident and left behind 8 children who look to V. as their second mother. Needless to say, she has been through a lot of stress, and, through prayer, came to the conclusion that she needs to withdraw from midwifery right now.

I completely understand her position and respect her decision 100%. I am very thankful that she did not try to "do it all" and then realize in my 30+ weeks period that she couldn't pull through for me. However, with all the time and discernment I have put into the decision to home birth and interview and find the right midwife for me, I was heartbroken and very upset all evening.

Right now we are leaning toward hiring her student assistant who I am very familiar with already, Janna Grapperhaus. She is close to being a CPM but not quite finished, and she has some options for me of CPMs she can hire to supervise her. Many details to figure out and questions to ask, but I have recently heard rave reviews of Janna's services and abilities which makes me all the more confident in her as a midwife.

Please keep us in your prayers during this discernment process (once again)!

10.24.2009

Baby "Nudges"

I've been feeling little baby "nudges" (as I like to call them) or "flutters" for about a week now. Very reassuring that baby is well... Go baby!! :-)

10.22.2009

Pregnancy & Lactation Tea

My midwife requires use of this "NORA" tea for all her clients and believes in its benefits strongly for the health of mama, baby, and to help prevent potential problems during labor.

I prepare it each night and drink a quart of it each day! I am new to tea infusions, the taste took some getting used to, but now it is becoming habit and I am starting to actually enjoy the taste.

If you would like to ask her more questions about it or purchase the tea mixture (1 lb for $12.00), please contact her directly at the phone number or address at the end of the document.

10.11.2009

Woodworking Shop

Jason is close (within weeks?) to having the shop floor finished and concrete poured. Finally! I think it will be a big relief for all of us. He has been consumed with it lately so that he can get it done in time for another winter season. He is in the middle of building a play-coffee table for Zyler. (We will "borrow" it as a coffee table.) Maybe it can be completed in the new shop instead of the crowded garage!

And thanks to Mom & Dad Kite for all their help the past couple of weeks in the new shop!

Study - Homebirth is Safe & Regulations Governing the Practice of Licensed Midwives in VA

My midwife gave me two documents I will share with you if you are interested. The first one I found to be quite an interesting read, the study from the British Medical Journal "Outcomes of Planned Home Births with Certified Professional Midwives: Large Prospective Study in NA."

The second was a copy of the "Regulations Governing the Practice of Licensed Midwives" from the Virginia Board of Medicine. Download it from this page. Kind of dry, but a brief read.

First Midwife Appointment

... was Wednesday.
Baby: hr 148 bmp via Doppler; fundal height on target. That "thump thump" sound of the heartbeat is one of the best sounds ever!
Me: BP 110/76; weight up about 7 lb

One of Vickie's assistants did my physical. I am in great health! Yay! :o)

We also discussed the financial agreement and she went over all the rest of the mountain of documents she gave me. She mentioned she was going to drop her billing service but can keep it for me if I want it... What all does submitting your own claims entail? That would be new territory for us. I am crossing my fingers that Southern Health is going to cover part of this birth expense and not just labs and office visits... I have heard different results.

Next appt: in 2 weeks. Need to finalize financial agreement and return my health history and nutritional profile forms.

10.02.2009

Daily Audio Bible

I have really been enjoying this podcast. I subscribed through iTunes and listen to a Bible reading each day. Browse the website and explore the community a bit... It has been a wonderful way of getting some extra personal Bible study into my daily routine.

10.01.2009

Baby Movements

I think I felt those amazing "flutters" earlier today of the baby moving. I think.

Of course, a pregnant lady is pretty darn gassy, too. :o)

9.30.2009

Home Birth Plan

That is, home birth is our birth plan at this time. Jason and I are each in a consensus about the choice, and feel it is safe. I still have somewhat a reservation about it, but when I think of another dozen reservations against another hospital birth. If you recall, I actually did have a relatively good birth experience with Z. However, I was constantly anxious over the strangers coming in and out of my birth room, and I hated the equipment hooked up to me. I know first labors can be very long and tedious--which mine certainly was--but in the back of my mind I still wonder how much more progress I could have made in the comfort of my own home. After all, I arrived at the hospital around 2300 at 8.5 cm dilated and he was born at 1021 the next day... eek!

Many studies have proven it safe. If you feel so inclined and are at all interested in birth issues, please see The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake. Truly an enlightening documentary about toady's culture and business of childbirth. I found it at my library. It's a very well done film and has been in the press a good deal.

Certainly lots of details to work out... The first of which was choosing a home birth midwife. (I really wish I could hire Z's midwife who was on rotation that night, but alas, as a busy CNM in the hospital setting, I do not see how that could be an option for her.) I was thorough and interviewed all the surrounding licensed CPMs who would see me. I wanted someone I connected with, obviously. But one particular question I asked each one was if she is Christian. I found only one who was both Christian and I felt that connection. After much prayer and discernment, I have chosen Vickie Ligouri of McGaheysville. (Her link may be broken as she is still working out the fun details of getting the site going.) Since we should be keeping God at the center of our lives, I felt it an important question to ask. What better place to begin the Walk than while under prenatal care in the womb? Vickie is experienced but just beginning to get her business off the ground.

I would like to speak with my previous provider (the team of now six CNM's at Rockingham Memorial Hospital) and see if they would see me should we choose to transfer. I would feel most comfortable going to RMH in a non-emergent situation. However, if we are in an emergency, we are only ten minutes from another good hospital, Augusta Health.

Please comment here on the blog (or Facebook, email, etc.) about any feedback you can share or just any info in general. We appreciate all your prayers and good thoughts for our family!

~ Shalom ~

Economy Update

God IS good!

Jason has been working for the past several weeks--or maybe a couple of months--for Neuman Aluminium on a contract basis, which has certainly been a blessing in itself. However, we recently found out that they are calling him back on a "permanent" basis effective October 1. Which is tomorrow! Thanks be to God, and, Lord, please bring work soon to those still seeking employment!

9.29.2009

Headaches

Early 2nd trimester... I have been fighting a horrible headache today. This morning at work the meeting I sat in on was difficult to focus. It actually helped to wear my glasses though. I called my midwife and she thought it was most likely I did not have enough protein yesterday. Interesting! I was watching my protein intake well for the first several weeks but have slacked. Headaches were inconsistent and annoying but had stopped for the last couple of weeks until today. I will try to do better and see if I notice a consistent improvement. Aren't our bodies amazing? Usually there is some sort of message they are sending us -- but sometimes the challenge is interpreting that message!

9.24.2009

Looking for Study Participants (Parents of Preschoolers)

Received this within my network. Thought it was worth passing along. ~P
--

Do you want to learn how to feed your child better? If you are the parent or main caregiver of a preschool child, you are invited to participate in a nursing research study online. This study is being conducted through Villanova University.

This is a nursing research study using a website to teach you about good feeding habits for children ages 2 to 5 years. The study can be reached at website address here, http://family-health.appspot.com

For more information, go to http://family-health.appspot.com or contact the principal investigator, Cynthia Rubenstein at 540-209-2506 or cynthia.rubenstein@villanova.edu

Participants must be 18 years or older, have computer access, and be the primary caregiver for a child 2 to 5 years old.

The study provides 2 weeks of unlimited access to health information to improve feeding practices for children and those completing the study will be entered into a drawing for a $50 Walmart gift card.

--
Cindy Rubenstein, RN, PhDc, CPNP-PC
Department of Nursing
James Madison University
HHS 2100
Harrisonburg, VA 22807

9.21.2009

Priming for a New Role - Pregnancy & "Baby Brain"

A friend brought me this article that clearly explains "baby" or "Mommy" brain as we mamas are all too familiar!
Pregnant women and animals experience slight decreases in learning and memory—changes that appear to pave the way for cognitive benefits in motherhood and may even advantage mothers as they age. 
A couple of weeks ago I thought maybe I was totally losing it. Well, not exactly, but I did know well enough to know my memory problems were related to the pregnancy. I couldn't remember to get Z's prescription for days, which was very unlike me, among countless other silly things I did or didn't do which for the life of me now, I cannot remember! 

So have no fear, my fellow preggos. We are normal. We are not crazy after all!

9.18.2009

Announcement

Here's our latest family announcement!

Life and Death...

I will take a similar format to my friend's recent blog post and throw two subjects into one post. I know it has been a long time since we have updated anything here but I do intend to keep this blog somewhat alive!

On life: We are planning the arrival of a new gift in early April! I feel so blessed and am eager to meet our new son or daughter. I have been feeling "so-so" as I near the end of the first trimester. I will plan to update my "Mommy" blog once again on our progress.

And on death: We said goodbye to our pastor's wife Teddi Nelson on Tuesday. She left to be with the Lord on Sunday, the 13th. She battled pancreatic cancer for eight months. Damn you, cancer. I found her funeral very touching and a wonderful tribute to her amazing life. Many, many, many people attended. I could not even participate in the church. I watched from a satellite location in our church's Activities Center. I agree with Abby on how incredible it is the number of people brought together surrounding a death (and also a wedding).

I was moved to tears by her drawing printed on the back of the program with happy, pastel colors of a rainbow and clouds, which read, "I am filled with the peace of the Holy Spirit. - Teddi." She drew it the day she went into hospice care. Pastor Dave, who says he could not say "no" to his wife of 33 years, gave the sermon at her funeral as she requested him to do. (Can you imagine what that must have been like for him?) He shared of a day not long before she died when she woke up in her room where religious music was playing. She asked the caregiver to turn off the music, stating that the angels were talking to her and she wanted to hear what they were saying. I truly believe she is now with our Lord and Savior and is finally at peace. What an honor.

Teddi was special to me and our congregation and, as a PK-K teacher, was passionate about children. She attended Zyler's church baby shower and I will always remember her by the wall hanging she gave us for his nursery.

Pastor Dave presided at our wedding. In fact, ours was his first wedding in Virginia. We think quite fondly of him and admire his strength and leadership throughout this obviously trying period.

I will close with a short prayer...
May God bless Pastor Dave's son James' wedding this Saturday! Bring peace and healing to Pastor Dave, his family, and our church in our time of grief. And God, thank you for this new life we are eager to welcome. Watch over and protect the new baby and my body as I carry and nourish it during such a crucial time of development. We are truly blessed and humbled. ~ Amen.

9.05.2009

Reducing Infant Mortality

An excellent short film on the factors surrounding a big problem our families face in the U.S.


Reducing Infant Mortality from Debby Takikawa on Vimeo.

8.24.2009

An OB Collaborating with Midwives

I thought this guy is compelling enough to promote. I sent him a small donation for his legal fight for women's rights to informed consent! Go Doc! http://supportdrfischbein.blogspot.com/2009/08/summary-of-what-is-happening-now.html

8.14.2009

Weaning... Another Milestone

Zyler is 19 months old! Can you believe it?

I think I may have nursed Zyler for the last time on Tuesday evening. Or at least the last time for a while... We had gotten down to just a.m. and p.m. sessions when he was cutting the morning one short a few weeks back. But he hung onto the evening session for a few more weeks, even if the sessions were short and sweet. I've always had trouble off and on getting him to not use me as a teething toy when he has teeth coming in, so I have had mixed feelings on weaning anyway... But I think it was this Wednesday when I went into his room when Daddy was reading him books, and he just wanted to go into bed instead of asking for milk. That has never happened before in my presence! I was miffed in a way but fine with it at the same time. Today I was kneeling down with him and he was looking at my nursing tank top at the clasps and said "milk," not in a request way but just observing, and proceeded to look down my shirt at the source. :) I didn't offer and it was fine.... We'll see if he might request any comfort nursing or such.

Update 8/24: He has started asking for milk again at bedtime for the past several nights... Ah, what a journey. I do have to admit that I was enjoying having my body back...! :o) But I certainly enjoy our BF bond we have...

4.20.2009

Electrical Usage

In tweaking our budget, I got around to creating an electrical kwH usage chart. As you can see, our average isn't so bad, I guess, but our monthly kWh continues to go up, it seems. It can be more difficult than you think to save electricity! We will continue to try, though, and are always seeking ways to improve.

4.15.2009

"Well, the economy..."

That's about how they started the conversation. With Jason, today, at work. He's been laid off. Yet another to add to the statistic! Let's hope I'm not another come the new fiscal year July 1.

We are still pretty numb about it and getting a hold on what that is going to mean for us and the household. I am trying to remember that God is in control and He will get us through this!

4.06.2009

"Almost" Walking

Our "baby" is 15 months old today and walking is imminent... then, of course, running! I will try to get some recent pix uploaded soon. We've had some technical delay in that department. :)

I can't believe the year + 3 mos have flown by so quickly. He is such a joy and we cannot imagine life without him. Dan & Kerry have spoken of this on their podcast also - I can remember things I used to do to fill my day, and, yes, I miss doing some of them, but mostly they were trivial, such as spending even more time on the 'puter, etc. In case you ever had a doubt, the bennies of having a baby by far outweigh the disadvantages. As John said, don't put it off "just because..."

3.09.2009

Family Photo Session

See our photos taken in November. I believe they will be available until May on the photographer's site.

2.24.2009

Sponsor Us at March for Babies

Please help me reach my goal! It's easy to donate online or mail a check to me. Thanks so much!

Sponsor Me at March for Babies

Please help me reach my goal! It's easy to donate online or mail a check to me. Thanks so much!

1.04.2009

Zyler's Birthday Party

Zyler is 1 year old on the 6th!

Here are some clips from his birthday party. Enjoy!