Kite Family: 09.2006

9.29.2006

Maybe We're the Jackass

Does anyone else find it disturbing that the #1 movie right now is Jackass 2??

As people, I think we all naturally want to ask why bad things happen to us. It reminds me of the book "Why Bad Things Happen to Good People." (No, I have not read it but I have heard it's worth the read!) Natural disasters, terrorist attacks, fatal child diseases, infant deaths, still births, and, of course, miscarriages. One friend told me, a couple of weeks after the mc, that when she was pregnant with her son, she prayed to God that if anything was wrong with his health that would make him suffer for a very long time, to please take him from her as early as possible. I appreciated her sharing that prayer with me. Very honest and real, and it brought a new perspective for me.

Last night at my Stephen Ministry Supervision meeting, a dear friend in the group spoke of her friend who recently terminated a pregnancy. Their baby had severe Downs Syndrome. Another S.M. member's nephew has lost 2 baby infants in a row who had severe defects. How sad for these families. In this respect, I am thankful that our baby went to heaven when she did. We may never know or completely understand why these types of unthinkable losses occur. Nevertheless, we have to know that God IS good and is watching over us... Somehow has a plan for each of us... And grieves with us.

~ P

9.27.2006

Healing

I met a wonderful lady nurse, Julie, for dinner tonight to discuss the mc. She has also suffered a mc and has been very active with the support group through RMH (which is not meeting due to no participation). Julie was wonderful and very open with her feelings about how she dealt with her loss and learned from it. Personally, I still have learning and I'm sure emotional healing to do. I will never forget the baby we lost. I feel amazingly better and have felt God's presence and healing the entire time. I cannot believe it's been 2 months since my D&C. I still ask "why" but remember that we don't always get an answer for that question. I have definitely learned how fragile and precious life truly is. Through my readings I learned even more that so many hundreds of things have to fall into place exactly right, that the miracle of life truly is a miracle. I knew that but hadn't full realized it. I believe that my openness to seek help and do my own research has drastically helped and sped my healing process. Jason and I also met with the leader/counselor with the support group, Nancy. She is wonderful and I feel the urge to tell everyone I know about her program. I have not found anything like it in Augusta County. If you know of anyone who has suffered a mc and has not had the voice to express her feelings, please let her know about the RMH program through the Center for Behavioral Health. I hope they can get the group going again soon.

~ P

I Support Altering

We have scheduled Razor for his neuter surgery at the Shenandoah Valley Spay & Neuter Clinic. The Clinic states, "Scientific research shows that altered pets live longer and are less likely to develop some forms of cancer and infections." I think these organizations are wonderful as they strive to reduce the unwanted pet population. They also state: "Our mission is to reduce and ultimately end the euthanasia of healthy and adoptable dogs and cats in the Valley." Hey and Indy came to us altered since he is from a Border Collie rescue program. It would be at least $100 more at our vet... For me it's a given to have your pet altered if you have a Heinz57 (the best!) are you not interested in breeding. We have a bitch who roams our
neighborhood every few months and we do not want to be partly responsible for any more unwanted Heinz. ;-)

Please support these organizations by sending them referrals and/or donations!

Paige